To all the men out there – particularly those of you who are fathers I have but one thing to say to you – don’t be a knuckle head daddy! That’s right, I’ll say it again – don’t be a knuckle head daddy! Now I know there are a lot of men who think they are fathers but get ready for a rude awakening.
Brothers, there is a big difference in being a “baby daddy” and being a father. “Baby daddies” make children to make an impression – an impression that is self oriented. Uncertain about whom they really are, baby daddies are more or less always trying to prove their manhood to themselves and their peers. And get this, most Baby daddies become daddies by default. Male + female + sex = baby. Baby daddies don’t make preparation for families, they just make them happen. They are not actually interested in the wellbeing of their children; instead their only interest is in how many children they can produce. Baby daddies do not make things better for their children, they merely add to the complicated burden that mothers are forced to tolerate because they won’t step up and be men. That is why the mothers of their children refer to them a “My baby daddy.”
On the other hand, fathers procreate because they desire to have a family. Day and night they keep their family at the forefront of their thoughts, continually ready to do whatever they can to enhance the conditions of life for their family.
Before the thousands of all the want-to-be fathers call me a lot of ungodly names and email me with nasty hate letters, I want you to take note to what I have to say about being a father. To be a father involves plenty of hard work and preparation, it doesn’t just happen. There’s an old saying in the street that the first child merely happens, the ones that follow takes nine months. I could have been a better father if someone had told me what fathers do, but I did not have that luxury, so I’m telling you – do not make the same errors that I did.
I made lots of mistakes along the way – many of them inexcusable and although I have learned to live with those mistakes, they have left lasting impressions in my mind that at times, weighs heavy on my spirit. But of course I was proud when my first child was born but I wasn’t prepared because I had nothing to give that child but love, and in today’s American culture that’s just not adequate. We live in an era where you can’t do anything without money and that leaves but one alternative – to be at the mercy of government support and even that is dwindling.
About those mistakes that weigh heavy on my spirit, there is one that still struggle with and in all probability will until I am no longer present on this earth. When my children needed me the most I neglected them for a little white stone called crack cocaine. When I got acquainted with crack it was the most horrible thing that I have ever done in my life. I never dreamed I would become a knuckle head daddy, but there I was addicted to crack, taking money from my children to give to the dope man.
Life in the “hood” is unpredictable but it can be defeated because wherever there is a desire you can forever find the fire that will stir up your dream, and everyone has a dream. Most baby daddies are familiar with life in the “hood” where everything is a battle and choices are few and even then, bad choices outweigh the good ones.
Even though I was a late bloomer and I didn’t do much to inspire my children, but I can say that I did grab hold of, and regained control of my life which is the first step to renouncing the status of knuckle head daddy and becoming a fruitful father – in my case, a fruitful grandfather. So to my young brothers pay attention to some counsel and stop being a knuckle head daddy. You can begin by planning your life. Get an education, start a business, give something back to your community and to those who helped you achieve your dreams, and don’t make babies until you can see the fruit of your planning. Don’t be a “my baby daddy” instead, be a proud father to your children. It will make a world of difference in the lives of all your family members.
Author Resource:-
Eric Dunbar is the owner and editor of Golden Entrepreneur, where you will find outstanding resources to help the online entrepreneur excel in business. Eric Dunbar is also the author of THE FACE OF A DEMON, referred to by many as “The Recovering Addict’s Handbook”, and editor of X-JOURNAL Blog
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